Do's and Don'ts When You like a Girl

    Today, Girls/Women that appreciate men's effort are very rare. I've already experienced a lot of failure since i started courting girls. Uggghhh... I wasted a lot Effort, Time and Tears which means nothing on them FIVE TIMES IN A ROW... Am I really that stupid on this thing? Anyway, no need for self pitty. Today, I realized that don't have to look down on myself instead, improvement is the solution to my problem. 
    I read a lot about how to court a girl, what do they like, and what to do and don'ts targeting a girl. pffftt, lots on the articles were very typical. I can't see the way on how to use their advises on the girls I like. Failures made me see and realize a ot of things about girls and I will share it to you.

 These are my observations so you are free to criticize or correct me if I'm wrong just comment and I'll consider your opinion if it is reasonable.



Let's start on what you shouldn't do to make them avoid you:

1. Never make them feel you care a lot about them
• This is the most common wrong moves of guys. I asked a lot of girls i know on what they feel when there's a man that cares about them and guess what, they told me that it is very annoying and they hate that kind of guy. In conclusion, the right move is to not make them feel you care for them. My OJT supervisor told me when I was still an intern, they like guys that doesn't care about them because it serves as a challenge to them on how to make a man care for them. My reaction was: "WUT?" hahaha maybe what she's trying to say is for them not to feel caged. People always want to feel free and my advice for this situation is to only show care about them when it is really needed. Another thing, this makes them feel that you are obsessed so never ever do this!
2. Never tell a lie
• Another thing I observed on girls is that once they see something suspicious on you, everything that you do next will be questionable. In short, you lost their trust and it is very hard to get back and most of the time it's gone forever.
3. Never tell them they are beautiful
• Wait, isn't this wrong? Wake up dumb-head! Telling a girl that they are beautiful whenever it is true or not is another wrong move because it is very common for them to be called that way. Your main goal is to be unique on her eyes. In my conclusion, to stay unique on other guys around here is for you not to call her that way. I highly advise you this while you are still courting the girl you like. Stop doing this whenever she's already your girlfriend because your main goal as a partner is to make her feel that she is the most beautiful girl in the world.
4. Never insist that you will pay for her bills when you're not in a date
• Since the first rule is to make her feel that you don't care too much about her, never pay for her bills when eating or shopping if you're not on a date. Paying for her bill will give her a hint that you already fell. This may trigger her on abusing you (not every girl but there are some).
5. Never tell her that she's hot
• This will trigger their mind that you are only attracted to their appearance and will make them think that you're a pervert. I highly recommend not to tell them this unless your girl is a bitch, they love being called HOT.

What you should do to attract her:

1. Just be yourself
• No matter what happen, never adjust on what they like on a guy. Adjusting on who you really are will ruin everything. 
2. Adjusting yourself in a good way

• Adjustments are only necessary if a lot of people are getting annoyed and telling that characteristics of yours are bad. Hearing those are not gonna get you killed. Don't feel bad if you hear bad feedback instead, be thankful and try to improve on what's not right about you.
• Try finding a lot of bad things about you and will will see the path on how to improve yourself. 
• Always remember that:
  
3. Tease or make fun of her
• Another way on staying near the girl you like is to make fun of her. This depends on her personality, you should estimate the rudeness when teasing her or you'll lose her. Making fun of each other will strengthen your connection to her and this is the way you can make that girl happy. Make sure not to hurt her feelings when teasing or making fun with her. This was one of my wrong moves when I was still in high school, I accidentally thrown a stupid word that made her avoid me. Crap that was so dumb!
4. Still make fun of her when trying to be nice
• Lets get back to the first rule, not to make her feel that you care too much about her. When you want to be nice on the girl you like, Make sure to show that you don't like doing that much. Always deny until the right time you confess to each other.
5. Love takes time to develop
• don't be very aggressive. That attitude will kill the development of affection you are trying to make. The minimum time to know each other is 3 months or beyond. A stronger affection is developed longer than three months so don't be very excited and don't be an asshole to think about "what if she finds better than me?" uggghh... that's a problem but it is a sign that she's not that attracted to you so you need to stop! Always be reminded that if a girl find another guy, she found it better than you. Instead of crying or cutting your wrist or whatever that will make you feel bad, just review yourself and identify what's wrong with you. It takes time to move-on so find another thing or activities that can divert your attention from thinking of the girl you lost.

SIGNS IF A GIRL IS NOT INTERESTED ON YOU:

   I've observed this a lot of time. Based on my own and friends' experiences.

1. She doesn't show urgency on answering your important messages
• If you don't feel important to the girl you like, you should give up as soon as possible.
• This is one of the most mistakable sign on identifying if a girl is not interested on you. There are chance that they are really busy on what they are doing...
2. Effort appreciation Failure
• If the girl you are trying to court doesn't appreciate your efforts, it is now the time that you should give-up. You're just wasting your time. The best thing to do is to find another girl that appreciates your effort. You should use the time you are wasting on that girl to more interesting things. You may use it finding the right one. 
• Find the priceless girl in this world and you will be really happy
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3. If she directly told you she don't like you
• Don't ever force her to like you because it's not love if there's a brute force. Love comes out naturally. Find the girl that can balance the love you feel for her but if you ignore this warning, this will bring no good things in your love life. You may end up being a stalker, rapist, maniac, obsessed or mentally devastated. 

    ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT HAPINESS IS A CHOICE... When you fail, It's up to you to stand up. There will be no help unless you call a friend. We can't live the world on our own. We need friends. Before finding the special someone that you want to live the rest of your life with, make sure you found the great friends that will catch you and make you feel better when you are feeling down.

    The greatest advise for this topic is:

• Proverbs 19:14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.